They're a Package

*phone rings*


*trying hard to find it in the bottom of my purse*

Me: Hello?

Friend: what you doing chile?

Me: At Old Navy before the rift raft wakes up and turn the store upside down

Friend: *sigh* already girrlllaaa you don’t play lol

Me: Yeah, had to cop some stuff for my nieces and Lil Richmond’s kids their bdays are right after mine

Friend: Girl, why u always spending your money on them….they are not your kids

Me: *silence*

Friend: I’ve been with Andrew for 6 years and have never brought anything for his daughter nor do I plan too.

Me: well, that says a lot about a lot of things and I’ll call u later

Friend: to each’s own right?!?

Me*click*

This conversation with her weighed on my mind heavy for days maybe because I really didn’t understand where she was coming from…well I kinda did but was she for real. You been entertaining a dude you say for years and not once thought of his daughter? Like never? Do you think he hasn’t took heed of that?!? Because trust me he has and mental noted the kind of person you are. I was always taught that men with children are a packaged deal, if you want to have a chance with the man. I guess I can respect what she was saying but I would never forget about the kids because who knows those could be your step children or the reason why you will never be nothing but his girlfriend for the rest of your life. Maybe she never got the memo about men with children but she should damn sure read it, because if the kid or kids don’t party with you he usually doesn’t either and I would never want that for him nor me. I asked her what if you were the one with a child who you want him to never take heed of your child? Would that be ok? And the answer made me mad…”I wouldn’t care” but ma’am you should and im sure he does and if he doesn’t what kind of man is that? I’m not a big fan of men with kids but at this age most people have them so I accept it and I never forget about the children at all. I never want them to feel left out of what is going on or rather not accepted by me. I think some females forget that men with children are a package you just don’t get him without the children. It says a lot about your character when you show no interest in the kids, do you think you can marry this man, have his baby and he will forget about his other children ma’am that will never happen..Ever. I would never personally..if I had children deal with a man who could care less about my child, I might entertain but the relationship would be so short term. I Don’t think she knows how hard I judged her after this convo, I mean it spoke volumes to me…huge volumes on the type of person she is and if he doesn’t care about her not being interested in his child the kind of men she likes. When you gain a man who had children, you gain the children like or not.