Side Chick or Nah?

So I am a side chick *clutches pearls* I know I am just as shocked as you are. I didn't realize it until today while having a convo with one of friends about the actions of a guy I am seeing. Lets just call him...Kappa. Smh..I have been seeing Kappa since march I met him via a dating website and for the most part he great but like every man he is stupid...smh..yhe first thing I notice about him is his phone..it's always getting answered.  Now maybe he missed the lesson on entertaing a female and giving her ur u divided attention...yeah once he got comfortable so did the phone. Now I took heed of that but decided to move past it. Lets fast forward shall we. Now maybe 2 months ago Kappa and I were getting ready to go I stood in his bedroom at the mirror over top his dresser and curled my hair....the. I drop my comb I look down to grab and saw that my comb had landed on some earrings...*straight face* ok ok ok granted we are both seeing other people but damn sir..u gotta respect others!! Of course I bring it to his attention and he played the situation to the left. Granted I don't trip but it was mentally noted! ...fast forward a lil bit more once again im at his house and look on the coffee table and there was chicks sunglasses..smh..he was treading light but I aint the type to trip too much so we address it move on..until this week. I hadn't seen Kappa in awhile because we both have crazy schedules but since I'm unemployed. I go over there everything is great..we laugh..joke..cuddle up to watch the game and I stay the night. I get up in the middle of the night to pee...I sit down look up and well well well what do I see...shower gel but not just any shower gel vagisil. Now we all know that aint for him. Now I aint shake him out of sleep like everything told me to I laid back down and never mentioned one word of it. So today while telling this same story it dawned on me....girlla u are a side chick!!! Like a real life side chick because clearly he has a maim chick and it aint me!!! She leaving all her belongings behind and me shiiiittt I take everything I came with when I leave. Like is there a side chick hand book I should be reading cuz I aint got no clue how to play that position at all!!!! Matter of fact side chick is not even a good color on me...