You're Just A Girl!!!

OK..so today I had lunch with some of my fave men...Cousin Bryan, God brother Jermaine and friend Geordan I can always count on them for advice. So we get to talking about The NBA finals and who got game who doesn't. Well, since I was brought up on b-ball I chimed in with my thoughts , everything is going well until good ole Geordan blurts out...."You are just a girl!!! You shouldn't know sports"
Me being the smart ass that i am I say" Fuck you Geordan!! you just mad I know more than the average male!" okay so that's when all hell broke loose...not that anyone was mad they know and love me, I just didn't want to have this tired ass discussion with them but looks like we were and we did.

My group of fave men continued on with there rant and rave about me and how I need to change so I can.. and I quote"HAVE A MAN AND NOT BE ALONE FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!!!!"...How rude wrong. They me told me if ever want that million dollar athlete husband that I want I need to work .I choose to be alone..well...I'm saving my heart for Bird which we all know that!! They spoke on a lot of "ISSUES" they say i have like....Being MEAN..OK OK i do confess, I'm not the Nice's person at times. I can be pretty damn mean and i blame some of that on my surroundings. I grew up running with the boys so it was do or die with them, u either hold your own or keep it moving...so some of my smartness and meanness...is that word? comes from always being the only girl and standing up for myself. Even as I got older they were still mean to me, they said it would pay off in the end and it did a lil. Now I take no shit and can hold my own!! so I accept my meanness? and I'm working on being a little nicer!!! Secondly, they bring up that i am very knowledgeable about Sports. OK well my bad..I love sports always have and always will..especially Basketball!!! They informed me that no man wants a girl who is too sports savvy!!!! They want to be the ones who know everything and u depend on him for knowledge not him depending you....That's funny i thought men wanted a women who could watch sports with them Actually know what going on..My male support group enlighten me sports is there thing and they don't want a GIRL to be apart of that!!! Last but not least they said I'm TOO INDEPENDENT or which Jermaine happily stated that some times I'm too STRONG MINDED!! Were they serious???...I was just brought up to know that u never depend on a man for anything...not just men don't depend on ANYONE for anything!!! Go for it yourself. Its better to be let down by your own self than someone else. I guess some guys feel that all these things are threats. I guess that's why I haven't had an worth while boyfriend in YEARS!!!! I thought that all these things set me apart from the rest..I thought it made me stand out more but I guess I was wrong they said someone with money just isn't going to stand for it!!! lol...that's all i could do was LAUGH OUT LOUD!!!

Well, maybe they are right!!! maybe i will be a lonely smart ass, sport savvy independent women for the rest of my life!!! which doesn't sound to bad to me!! the only conclusion i could come up with from this that BOYS ARE STUPID!!!!!!

Friends!!...How many of us have them????

Friends are something I always had especially in my younger days when I had more Friends than i can count, but now at 26 yrs old my friend circle has dwindled to only a few. Out of that few only a chosen couple are my true friends.

Loyalty is one of the biggest factors i live my life by and value my friendships with, but i learned that some of my "friends" weren't as loyal as me. I have always been open about my life with my friends. I have whole another friendship circle outside of them that consist of my boys I grew up with. I keep those worlds separate for a reason. I grew up in a not so nice area so i grew up with boys who turned to the streets for support. Some of my female friends didn't experience the life that i lived so they don't really get it.
Because of this i make it a point to keep them in two different worlds. I always stress to them that I prefer for them not to date them just give me my space when i 'm not with them I like to be one of the boys minus the girls. I thought everyone understood this because we have been friends for so long but i guess one of them missed the memo. S.D. took it upon herself to go behind my back pursue one of them...well at least she thought it was behind my back!!! I wasn't mad about the situation i was mad behind the betrayal. When i comforted her about it she basically brushed me off and haven't talked since...one month later...so my friend circle just got smaller......

Now me and T.C. have been through alot over the past 7 yrs. from sneaking out to meet boys to being there for her when she found out she was pregnant. I thought our friendship was air tight but i guess i was wrong. It all started the moment she got a lil boy toy and things took a turn for the worse. Our friendship became far and in between. She later told one other friend that I can't relate to her because i have no children and no boyfriend so we have nothing to talk about! OK children maybe not but Boyfriend??? I think not. I choose to be single..I'm trying to make a better singular before I can make a better plural. When i say we don't talk at all i mean nothing!! I might send her a text once in a while ...which she doesn't answer..but at least i tried. Last week she wrote this very amusing blog...about friends and we all knew she was taking about me and its cool. You live and You learn. 2 down the circle just got smaller!!!

So to my remaining friend which isn't many. Thank you guys for always remaining loyal and there for me when i thought i couldn't do it anymore. Thank you for always remaining constant in a world of change!!! I love you guys.