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Tuesday, May 4, 2010

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Today was my day to pose the question of the day for my email group..ok that might have sounded lame but my cousins and I do this once a week to get advice on something or just to see where each of our heads are at. After I asked this question to them I decided I would love to hear what yall have to say...so here it goes...

Could you ever marry a man/or women who didn't want kids in the future?

let me give you a little bit more to think about before you answer. Lets say he or she has kids of their own and just don't want to add anymore to the equation and you do. Would that be an defining factor in the future or not?


Starrla, Khaki, Epitome, and Lipglass and Handbags I especially want to hear from ya'll! oh and I can't forget tha unpretentious narcissist I need to hear a males point of view too!!!!


10 comments:

Epitome said...

Well...you know Epitome wants 3 kids...4 if I'm well off so this is a hard question for me to answer...well at least I thought it would be...but I thought about it for 2 minutes and my answer was clear...

Yes I would.

If I'm considering marrying a man he must already be extraordinary...and I obviously love him quite deeply...therefore I wouldn't count him out for something that small. Especially since I've had the experience of motherhood before and he also brought children into the relationship which I would love as my own anyway. I would be disappointed and we would revisit it later but all in all I would respect his decision.

I think this would be a harder question to answer if I didn't already have a child. I'd probably still go through with it though because its awfully hard to turn your back on love.

JStar said...

That is a decison breaker for me...I have two daughter, 14 and 17...I wouldnt date a man who doesnt already have kids....Because I am NOT having ANYMORE...I took care of that 14 years ago :)

luvlymskrissy said...

Realistically if I met a man and we started talking whether we wanted more children or not would come up in conversation. If that was something I felt really strongly about and wanted, then more than likely we wouldn't move forward.

Now if we were in a relationship and later on he decided he didnt want more children and we were already committed and in love then we'd just have to work it out. Because at that point it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.

jazzyjaz said...

I think that him not wanting children would be deal breaker at this point in my life right now. I want more kids in the future and I need someone who is willing to in with me. I would probably not let things get to serious if i know before hand thats something I'm willing to compromise with. I would love his kids as my own but I would want us to a child of our own to share so to speak.

Lady Dee said...

Nope. This is a deal breaker. I love and want kids so if he doesn't want any either he has to change his mind or its a no go. I think even if he has kids already its a deal breaker because I want to experience being pregnant, raising my kids, etc. I don't just want to be a stepmom. However, this would have come up way before I could even think of marrying someone. Its one of the first things I ask. If the answer is no I don't even pursue a relationship.

phallatio said...

Ha! I have four! I am done!

Beyond Danielle said...

I have 3.5 kids I agree with phallatio

khaki la'docker said...

that would actually be ideal for me.

With my inability to conceive, I would prefer for him to not want to have any/anymore kids. its actually harder since I have one and I am asking someone to give up fatherhood for a relationship.

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★Starrla Monae☆ said...

Oh dear....I couldn't do it. This would be the deal breaker. I don't have kids but I do want them one day and it would hurt me like hell if a man who claimed to love me wasn't willing to give me that. It would pierce my soul even more if he already has kids and was still denying me that gift. I don't believe I would be able to get past that....telling me I'm worthy enough of having your last name but not worthy enough to bear your child or children just doesn't sit well with me. I would hope though that I'd never have to be put in a situation like this because I'm asking intrusive questions before any relationship of mine even got that deep. It's better to find out sooner than later!

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