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Sunday, November 14, 2010

I missed yall!!!





I swear I missed yall.....


I realized the other day it has been awhile since i have blogged *surprised face*. Some of that has to do with school taking over all aspects of my life *throws books*, my job blocking blogger at work *flips desk over* and the fact I have a small case of writer's block *sobs* but do to much encouragement from Krissy and some others i decided to would be a great day to blog because my football teams sucks and i shall not watch anymore more football game until the super bowl *takes down cowboys flag and puts up Lakers flag*


Until last night i really hadn't had anything to inspire a blog or two but ha!! I'm back..I think :/...well at least for now i do...


I had a lunch date with my boo Khaki (hey boo) and of course like always she grills me about my love life and the why's and why not's of why me and lil Richmond aren't in a real relationship..*side eye* lol...i hate her,the heffa has been trying to marry off for the past year or so....of course like the great friend she is she points out all my faults and she was right maybe it is me who is so hesitant on being in a relationship with him....and before anyway says it....it's not because of I can't let Bird go because he gone for the most part....I think I'm just comfortable with what we have now present day. It is so great that I don't want to rock the boat and make this good thing turn into something bad *sigh* I have rushed into alot situations in my 27 years and they have all ended badly..hints my last real relationship was the worse of the worse and don't want to do that again...ever... I guess I am taking a while to be exclusively him and just him....for the most part I am...i mean is my main piece the star player but i do keep a couple of the team just in case..don't judge me...I can admit that I do have an commitment issue and that is probably one of the reasons I'm just holding my spot at the not quite a his girlfriend area. Khaki repeatedly asked me how long do I plan to be just "messing" with him before i decide that being his girlfriend is what I wanted to be. I still don't have a answer tot hat question because i really don't know...maybe tomorrow, maybe next month, maybe next year I can't say..maybe I'm just waiting on his move, waiting for him to bring that up to me. I'm sort of old fashion girl when it comes to things like that I want him to take the lead but i can see how men can be confused when it comes to me and that because i such a a take charge and aggressive demeanor they usually wait on my move..which may never happen.


So with all that said and i think i went off track but who cares.....my question is....


HOW LONG DO YO WAIT BEFORE YOU GET IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WITH A PERSON? IS IT 6 WEEKS, 6 MONTHS, A YEAR? WHEN DO YOU STOP JUST MESSING WITH EACH OTHER AND BECOME A COUPLE?

5 comments:

Traci Lavette said...

Just my opinion, but it should be treated just like a baby. The embryonic stage where you go thru the nurturing part of the relationship. Getting used to each other and all that. Getting to know each other's likes/dislikes/wants/desires/life goals, etc. Just go thru the different trimester stages and let the love be born and be a natural process. I think when people go too fast, failure can ensue and there's no turning back when that happens.

I wish you all the best - though I don't think you'll need it.

Krissy said...

You should commit to a relationship when you think you are ready. Don't ever feel like you have to rush it. But you know you have to let go of your past to move into the present and if you can't do that, there is no point in trying to get into a committed relationship. I'm sure you'll figure out what's right for you in due time sugar.

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts said...

I can't answer that because all my relationships have all been random.

★Starrla Monae☆ said...

I agree with Krissy...you have to let go of the past in order to be able to give your all to the present. All guys aren't the same...don't think he'll do you like others have. Negative thoughts are not conducive to trying to build a healthy relationships. I don't think there's a certain time limit but moreso whenever you feel comfortable enough to make it official...at the same time, if he's pursuing the hell out of you but you keep running away, STOP! LOL...give it a chance...especially if he hasn't done anything that would make you think otherwise. Keep us updated.

tha unpretentious narcissist© said...

in my opinion, you don't wait.

but yall know i'm just one of those type of dudes. i will commit on that ass after the first conversation. but to me...what's the harm. if i think you'll be worth the time. if i think i want to see where things can go with you. i have no problem saying...let's date. and when i say let's date. i don't mean you date me, jake, devon, & mark. if i said we dating...girl.....

if i see you with another nigga i'ma give you that stank eye. poke my lips out. sucker punch that nigga and run. lol..

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