This came about after watching Love and Hip Hop; Stevie J got his side piece pregnant. Well, of course me and a couple of my friends had to discuss the show and the question was asked…COULD YOU STAY WITH A MAN WHO GOT ANOTHER CHICK PREGNANT? All of our answered varied from yes, no, maybe…only if and so on.
Well, once upon a blue moon I did that…I stayed with a boyfriend who had went out and had a baby with another person. *pauses for the gasps* now that is over let me say at the time I thought I was in love, I lived and breathed him, he was everything I thought I wanted in a man until….He dropped this baby bomb on me, well actually he didn’t the other chick called me…we met up and she told me all that I needed to know. Needless to say I walked away from that convo numb to everything around me. When I confronted him with my new found information he denied it for a loooonnnngg time and since I was blinded by his “love” I believed him, we never spoke of that baby until the day she came into the world. He jumped up one night and sprinted to the door and I heard from him 12 hours later when he told me that the baby was his and she had arrived. I remember sitting at the foot of his bed crying my eyes out and wanting to throw up. So here I was standing at a crossroad to stay or to go, now back then I just knew he was going to be my husband, I thought my heart only beats for him and because I didn’t want the baby mama to have him I stayed. That was one of the worst decisions I had ever made in my life. I spent the next couple of months trying to accept this new baby and the fact that he gone all the time to spend time with this baby. I thought that I could move from this we could be together I was sadly mistaken, I envied the attention the attention the baby was getting and couldn’t trust him as far as I could throw him. If he was seeing her, which I found out he continued to see who else was he seeing….oh and that list was long.
If I could do it all over again…I would have NEVER stayed with him…never ever ever. What is done in the dark always comes to light and it did for him, once the trust was gone it was nothing left for us..nothing at all.
My question to you is COULD YOU STAY WITH A MAN WHO GOT ANOTHER CHICK PREGNANT?