"I ain't a gold digger but I don't do broke n*ggas!"
I recently posted that on my twitter while hearing it the Wale concert courtesy of @aye_IB an underground female rapper from Texas. Now when I posted it I didn't know how much this one little statement would cause so much outrage and drama.
I got messages, tweets and DM's from people judging me off of that one little line. I got alot of that whole statement right there was that of a gold digger mind set...huh? At first I felt like I needed to defend myself, prove to others that I'm not the gold digger they're accusing me to be. But then I thought...I'm standing behind this statement 110% because I felt on what she was trying to say.
Gold digging and be comfortable are two totally different affairs in life. Confession: I often make jokes and say I'm just holding off until i find my millionaire husband and then life will be great but in actuality I just want to be in a relationship and feel secure. I have never based who and Why I dated someone off solely on how many zeros are in there bank account or how much there net worth is..the car they drive...clothes they wear or the company they keep. Money isn't the defining factor in how i feel for u. I personally just don't want to be in a barely getting by relationship...i wanna know that shit goes wrong...that we as a couple could survive on one income for awhile without feeling like we are barley keeping our heads above water. I once had an relationship were i was the bread winner and it was I who carried him on my back and did everything for us off of my little pay check and let me tell you that was something I vowed I shall never ever in life do again. I want to be with someone can hold a job down, keep up with his bills and leave an above water life....Is that to much to ask for?.....Does that make me an gold digger?
I spend every other weekend with a group of gold diggers in the hair salon. I listen to them talk about all the money they see, trips they take and expensive items that cover there bodies on a day to day bases. Hell, I'm friends with a couple of gold diggers who only date men who only have 6 figure incomes to sit on. I'm amazed at how much time goes into living your life by gold digger standard and making yourself available for these men. The are all about the $$$ and what it can do for them...from fast cars to very expensive shoes a gold digger has nothing but$$$ on the mind it probably all they think of. A gold digger has dollar sign in there eyes and that something i just don't possess. I never thought because I want to have an better comfortable life then that of my parent would automatically make turn me into an gold digger. I thought i was just having higher standard for myself trying to make a bigger life for me and my future children...I guess not.
Gold diggers chase the glam and glory of the money, I just wanna be have an extra $5 in my pocket instead of picking lent balls. If that makes me a digger then i shall wear the title with pride.