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I'm young, black, single and fabulous!!! Trying to live my life to the fullest before its all said and done with . I'm just trying to figure it all out!


Friday, July 16, 2010

My father always told me to NEVER depend on a man for nothing, make sure you always have your own. I have carried that with me all my life and I live by it. I do for myself before I ask or let a man do for me or rather depend on him, its nothing personal but I know that I would never disappoint myself while on the other hand a man can and some cases will! I'm surprise day by day when I meet or hear about women who depend on men for everything...smh...I'm not saying I don't want a man around nor do I want to be alone for the rest of my life...I'm saying I'm just prepared to take care of myself all by myself if push comes to shove. I know a couple of woman who live and breath the air that only their man provides. Everything they have is because of them...money, cars, home, clothes its all because a man provides it for them. now I'm not knocking that hustle , I just wonder if life took a left turn would they be able to survive without them. For example Lil Richmond has a baby mama who i know wouldn't be able to survive without..well its clear that she not going to be able to. He takes care of most of her needs...a roof over her head, food in the fridge, clothes on her back and the needs of the kids is all on him. She collects a very plentiful child support check included in that too. I wondered for awhile what would she do if he wasn't willing to do all that anymore or lord forbid he not here anymore...I learned the last couple of weeks that she wouldn't be able to pull it off without him...Long story short all her perks have been cut short because of somethings that will happen in the up school year and now she is hanging by a thread and doing whatever it takes just so all that was happening before continues on....She proved that survival on her own would be far fetched because he doesn't know how too. She hasn't worked in years..never really had to do much but take care of the kids and she was happy with that and now it could all stop...It has stopped .Now she is in panic mode trying to figure it all out. I just can't understand that at all, I thought every Female was taught that lesson about not depending on man for everything..I guess i was wrong. Its not about not needing a man its about being able to handle it all on your own...I think you should always plan for for it all and one thing i always prepare for. My father use to always say what if something happens to him...what he gets in accident and doesn't survive or is not able to provide and more would you be able to survive with him and all he brought to the table. Me as a female I feel like we should always be able to make things to happen on our whole...we have always been thought of as the weak group ..not being able to survive on our own so we need to make it a point to be able to perform this without a second thought. being able to handle your business is part of being a big girl and a adult. It saddens me to think that there is till some females who can't grasp that concept or just don't know how to pull it off.....maybe I should teach a class on that .


Freckles said...

I know more than a few women that suffer from this same problem. I take care of myself because I have to but I do not know anything to anyone but me.

★Starrla Monae☆ said...

True words. It's nothing wrong with having a man take care of you but in the same breath you need to also know how to take care of yourself. That's basic life skills and it's crazy that some women aren't familiar with it.

Traci Lavette said...

Sidenote...get that fool Ocho Cinco off the side of your screen, girl! He doesn't want anything that is a shade of brown - best believe that LOL! I honestly don't believe that chocolate is that fool's flavor of choice.