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I'm young, black, single and fabulous!!! Trying to live my life to the fullest before its all said and done with . I'm just trying to figure it all out!


Thursday, September 10, 2009

For The Love Of Money

My girl Nina is getting married to this dude that I know she doesn't love. She has repeatedly told me this and her action speak a thousand words but she's still going to marry him! So I asked her why...For the love of money! She told me he's a jerk doesn't care about her feelings, could careless about her opinion he just wants a pretty young wife(he's 15yrs older than her) and that she said she is willing to be. The one thing he does offer her is security...financial security! He does very well for himself and provides her with everything she wants. He wiped out her debt, pay her car off..hell he brought her a new one, brought her a new condo, keeps her in all the fly labels but she's not happy with him. Basically she marrying him for the part of her life she needs him to provide for. Call her whatever u want gold digger, whore whatever it may be she's OK with it. I asked her what if she finds a nice blue collar man who doesn't make not even half of what her fiancee makes but she loves him would she leave to be with him.....Hell Nah! is what she replied. i can't give up my security to be on rocky ground with someone else..hell i might grow to love him!.....Interesting!

So my question to you all is Would u marry a man u didn't love because he provides above and beyond what u are use to or Would marry a blue collar man who you are deeply in love wit but money is something he doesn't have?

I want to hear what u got say...


khaki said...

I couldnt do it. Money is only temporary happiness. Maybe in a few years Nina will realize that.

★Starrla Monae☆ said...

I'd have to go with the latter. Money isn't everything. It can buy you a house, but not a home. It can buy you sex, but not love. Buddy is going to end up making her his puppet. Who's to say this marriage is going to work? He has all the control right now and at any time, he can just up and take HIS shit and tell her to get gone. Are any of these condos and cars in HER name? Something to think about.

**5 Star Chick** said...

"Whoever said money cant buy happiness,Dont know where to Shop" <-- I use this quote alot but under her circumstances I just wouldn't Agree. Now I'd MOST DEF date some1 with money even if no feelings were present but marrying them is a whole other ball game. He's not seeking companionship either(from the sounds of it) and in no way possible will this marriage last.

thecreativemixx said...

I've had this discussion a few times now and honestly? Couldn't do it.

I use to work amongst folks who were rolling in dough, but were still living a unhappy life. So what's that tell you? At the end of the day, money can't buy you happiness.....

I'd rather be with someone who truly cared about me, my feelings, aspirations, the whole nine - than have a man who could only support me financially but not emotionally.

Just my two cents:)

IntrospectiveGoddess said...

I would go with the latter. I am the type of person that doesnt like to be dependent on other people. So if the man I loved didnt have much money we could make it work cuz I'm always gonna have my own. So what will she do when he decides that he doesnt want her anymore, I mean ok she might get half and even alimony but that can only go so far....And most men who spend that type of money on women think that they own them, I feel like this will be a very dysfunctional marriage...will you be present when they tie the knot?

Traci Lavette said...

I must say that I would marry for the money. I'm not going to even lie. I have been Ms. Independent for most of my life and would love to relinquish some of the responsibility. I guess I'm with Nia.

Now, on the other hand, if I did find a nice blue collar dude, I would consider him, but hands down, he has to have goals. He can be in that blue collar position, but he has to have aspirations to want more and be working to get there. Even if that means he is heading his own small (but lucrative) company.

I want a 6-figure household and that's my bottom line. I do feel for Nia though if she is compromising her happiness at the expense of living nice, but shit what about women that are cooking dinner, taking care of kids, giving up the sex when he wants it, washing, cleanting (in Madea's words), and all for FREE?! I'll do a Nia move instead.

Sorry for the book...pretty passionate about it, I guess LOL!

Lady Dee said...

Hell to the no. All the money in the world can't buy happiness. I love me a blue collar man. Lol. I believe in marrying for love otherwise wats the point? What will be there to hold you together through tough times? Green paper that nay not last forever? At the end of the day you don't want to roll over look at the guy ur sleeping next to til dead do you part and say, "What the hell was I thinking." If I don't love you and you don't love me I'd rather be by myself cuz I don't need the aggravation of being with someone who doesn't give to figs about my well being and then being pissed because they don't care.