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I'm young, black, single and fabulous!!! Trying to live my life to the fullest before its all said and done with . I'm just trying to figure it all out!


Thursday, December 17, 2009

The answers......

Val or Pro Brooklynite came by yesterday and dropped those 6 questions for me to answer and I appreciate it to the fullest since she was my 60th follower we had to have a celebration!!!

I decided to answer her questios 2 at a time so I would have something to blog about because lawd.... knows my mind is drawing a blank So here are the first set of question.....

If you could pick one person who influenced your life the most...Who and How?

Alot of names run through my head with this one but the person who stands out the most is my brother Andre'. People are always amazed at how close we are because he 11 years older than me and we have little to nothing in common. Andre had to overcome many obstacles as a child and adult. He did it with so much determination and drive he has inspired me to be the same way. He's the type of person who is always looking at the glass half full instead of half empty, he supportive and ll that i want to do no matter what crazy shit i come up with...and trust me i have come up with some crazy things too! At times that i feel like i can't do it anymore he is always there to pick me up and hold my hand to help carry me on. it doesn't matter what going on in his life he always has time to share in yours. Because of him he has molded into the person i am today. I watch his selfless ways and just admire the man my brother has turned into and I hope when I'm his age that I can just be half of the amazing person he is.

What is the best Advice you have ever received from your mother?

"A man will only love you as much as you love yourself." At first when she said that to me i was only 17yrs old and didn't really get what she was trying to say to me but it all became clear around 19 or 20. I learned alot from that statement she quoted at my grad. party. Over the years i learned that will you have the deepest love for yourself a man will love you the same way if not stronger. At 17yrs old I wasn't loving myself to much at all, I carried myself strong but inside i wasn't that girl. The relationship I was in at the time wasn't healthy at and because i couldn't love myself more he just loved me the same way. He treated me the way I treated myself with no respect. When i started to love myself more and I got out of that relationship i saw how other men read that self worth and love me just as strong. My mother doesn't know this but that statement probably saved my life......So Thanks Mom.


Val or Pro Brooklynite said...

My brother and i were close like that... this brought tears to my eyes... he was killed 2 years ago around this time.. but i can definetely relate. Smart woman your mama is :0)

tha unpretentious narcissist © said...

aww that was cool about your brother. me & my cousin are like that. we actually have everything in common tho. but being an only child it was always great to have him around like a brother.

as for what your mom said, that's true. that's what i tell chicks all the time. it starts with you. you won't even begin to know how you need to be loved until you love yourself.

Traci Lavette said...

Both beautiful testaments regarding your mother and brother. Having someone like your brother to emulate and seeing that all odds can be overcome has to be a reward in itself because not all of us get that. He is not a defeatist and that is something that is the type of person we all need to surround ourselves with. Seriously.

Your Mama. Yay Mama!!! Very good advice and it's a trip that words don't really sink in until we are in specific situations. Those ring true - so very true. It goes for all the people in our lives too...not just men. But it is definitely something to take heed to in our personal lives.

Thanks for sharing!